It would be nice to think that all family gatherings are full of love, kinship, thoughtfulness, fun, warm, and all those other fuzzy warm adjectives in the dictionary. Sadly, that is not always the case, especially if you come from a family where addiction has not been a stranger. When you are on the road to recovery and one or more family members are still dealing with addiction or substance abuse with no intention of stopping, family gatherings can be difficult.
You are begged to come and join in on the festivities, although you are quite aware of where the event will end – conflict and family members arguing with one another. A part of you wants to attend out of respect and for those members of the family that are clean. Some of those same family members may even be a big part of your support group, yet you know that no good will come out of it in the end, but feel that you need to make an appearance at least. The struggle between “should I go or should I stay” wears on you.
What is right and what is wrong in this situation is a conflict many recovered addicts have. It is not uncommon for more than one family member to have or be dealing with an addiction making it a common scenario for family gatherings to be difficult causing a mental and emotional struggle. The best rule of thumb in situations that make you feel uneasy is to follow your gut instincts. If a part of you is telling you to steer clear, err on the side of your own personal recovery and follow what your gut is telling you.
The more time in recovery one has, the better they are able to deal with high stress situations. Through treatment and support groups, stress strategies are learned and one knows better what their breaking points are as well as their triggers. For those new in recovery, it is probably best to avoid situations where there is high stress, temptation, and possible drug/alcohol use. If you have no other choice but to attend or feel obligated to attend, take a strong support person with you who will be able to help you draw a strong line when it is time to go if the situation deems.
In closing, I am curious as to how much credence do you give to your gut instincts? Do you follow them? Under what circumstances? Have you ever had to attend a family gathering you knew would be stressful? How did you handle it if you went?
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