Being shy isn’t necessarily a problem. It’s perfectly acceptable to take time to get to know someone and feel comfortable in their surroundings. But for some people, shyness is a debilitating fact of life. It blocks them from being as comfortable and/or sociable as they want to be. These people seriously want to overcome their shyness and some of them will turn to drugs to do it. There are better and safer ways to achieve the same end without putting yourself at risk.
A good place to start would be your own physician. He may be able to help or at least recommend a therapist for you. It may only take a few sessions for a good therapist to help you work through the reason for your shyness. Aside from professional help there are other things you can do to help yourself. Start practicing social behaviors with people that you know. Be sure to make good eye contact thinking about confident body language as you talk. Ask them questions and let them ask you questions. Practice making introductions and have sessions of small talk about different subjects.
Conversation starters are just that, something said to start a conversation. It doesn’t always have to be off of the top of your head. You can actually think of them ahead of time and practice, practice, practice. Sometimes it’s enough if you just introduce yourself. Try giving someone a compliment, that’s a sure way to draw them into a friendly conversation. You can rehearse what to say, by yourself in front of a mirror or with a friend or family member. Don’t try to memorize it; it will be close enough without that. No one is perfect, even those people who seem confident.
Find a group activity where you can be with people who enjoy the same interests as you. If you know your subject, conversation comes easier and with easier conversation comes confidence. Don’t be afraid to develop your assertiveness. Most shy people don’t like to rock the boat because they are overly concerned with other people’s reaction. Being assertive merely means speaking up for yourself when necessary, asking for what you need or want, or letting other people know they are bothering you in some way. A Better Tomorrow is a good place to go if you are suffering from an addiction, no matter how or why you got to that point.
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Shyness is a horrible thing to have to deal with. I know it can be quite debilitating for some. I always try to seek out the loner at parties and try my best to draw them into conversation. I was really shy as a teen and thanks to a good friend of mine I was able to overcome it. But, I still remember how I felt before I did.
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